About the Book:
Bob Fife was raised in a small Ontario town by a Christian mother and an unbelieving father. The tensions made for a dysfunctional home and an uneasy life. But nothing prepared Bob for being sexually molested by an older boy he trusted—or what happened in his heart afterward.
Out is the story of Bob's descent into homosexual practices and out again. His fascinating journey takes readers from the confusion of his teen years, to his marriage and fatherhood, to his discovery and embrace of the flamboyant Toronto gay scene. He describes abandoning his young family in order to fulfill his same-sex desires, taking him to London, Amsterdam, Berlin, Barcelona, Provincetown, Key West, and San Francisco. Over a decade later, an unexpected visit from his college-aged son caused Bob to confront the consequences of his indulgences and begin to seek change.Today, Bob has been out of his gay lifestyle for over twenty years. He has reconnected with the church, built and maintained healthy, nonsexual relationships, and healed his relationship with his son. For those who want a way to deal with their same-sex attractions, not celebrate them, Bob's story points a way to grace and redemption.
“I’ve know anyone who was argued out of homosexuality, but I’ve seen them loved out.” (p. 198)
This is the most brutally honest testimony regarding a Christian’s choice to enter the gay lifestyle, and how, through the love an infinite patience and accountability, was delivered out of it. This lifestyle choice has been one of the most destructive, divisive tool in the enemy’s arsenal. It strikes at the heart of the most intimate familial relationships, and only by God’s grace and a LOT of hard work, can any of the relational damage be healed and whole again.
Bob Fife’s testimony is not an easy read. God has placed people in my life over the last five years that are struggling against the bondage of the choice to live the homosexual lifestyle. I can certainly testify that people who have made that choice for themselves are super sensitive about any type of love and friendship offered to them – it’s like they can’t understand it, because EVERYTHING is filtered through the lens of sexuality.
To read Bob’s testimony was both heartbreaking and enlightening. I understand some things better than I did before – mainly how important it is to love people with the love I’ve been shown by Christ! His love is the ONLY thing that has the power to effect change in any life!!
I’m going to re-read this book for even deeper understanding. I’m grateful that God is using Bob Fife to reach a community of people who need to hear the truth of God’s transforming love. I know his story has challenged me again to love people better and truer as I go forward in life.
About the Author:
Bob Fife is an Ontario based business man and a former practicing homosexual. Today he devotes his time to mentoring men and women who are looking for alternative ways to deal with same-sex attraction.