Saturday, January 16, 2010

Letters to Darcy by Tracy Ramos - REVIEW and GIVE AWAY!

It is time for a FIRST Wild Card Tour book review! If you wish to join the FIRST blog alliance, just click the button. We are a group of reviewers who tour Christian books. A Wild Card post includes a brief bio of the author and a full chapter from each book toured. The reason it is called a FIRST Wild Card Tour is that you never know if the book will be fiction, non~fiction, for young, or for old...or for somewhere in between! Enjoy your free peek into the book!

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Today's Wild Card author is:


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Letters to Darcy: a mother’s heartfelt letters to her unborn child

Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. (November 9, 2009)

***Special thanks to Maggie Rowe of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. for sending me a review copy.***

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:


Tracy Frisbie Ramos is the mother and home educator of six living children, ages two to eighteen, and is joyfully expecting a new child to join their family in November. Tracy’s mission in life is to serve God by raising godly children who will make a different for His Kingdom on earth. It is Tracy’s hope that the legacy of her seventh child, Darcy Anne, will continue to spread the message that children are a gift from God and that the life of the unborn is sacred and should be protected. She and her husband, Jason, currently live in Magnolia, Texas.

Visit the author's website.

Product Details:

List Price: $9.99
Hardcover: 160 pages
Publisher: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. (November 9, 2009)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1414333846
ISBN-13: 978-1414333847

Oh, dear reader! To read this story is to experience a miracle! The love poured upon these pages is tangible and powerful! If you have ever, ever questioned the beginning of life at the moment of conception, you will never, ever question it again after reading this story! What a precious testimony of God working in the lives of His children!


I lost my first child through miscarriage, and reading this helped me to grieve this loss, but also allowed me to rejoice in the gift of life anew. I have two beautiful, healthy sons now - ages 14 & 16 - and I will love them all the better after reading this precious tribute to Darcy! Praise GOD for the gift of her life and the testimony of her family!


I HAVE AN EXTRA COPY OF THIS BOOK TO GIVE AWAY! PLEASE LEAVE YOUR COMMENT ON THIS POST TO BE ENTERED TO WIN!





AND NOW...THE FIRST CHAPTER:




Foreword

There comes a time in one’s life when a single decision changes everything. For Tracy and Jason Ramos, that decision was to allow their unborn daughter Darcy Anne to live. Faced with the reality that she was carrying a baby with trisomy 18, Tracy was given the option of ending the pregnancy early, after being assured that her baby was not compatible with life. The Ramoses chose life over death because of their faith in a sovereign God who does all things for His glory. Darcy Anne arrived a few months later as a beautiful bundle of joy, just like the Ramoses’ previous six children.

Although Darcy Anne’s life expectancy was only a few hours, God kept her alive for fifteen amazing days to teach each of us some valuable lessons about life. This gift from God reminded us that life is measured not in days but in daily experiences. Tracy and Jason knew that because their time with Darcy Anne would be short, their memories would have to be long. And so, each hour of Darcy’s life was filled with the joys that most girls have years to enjoy: birthday parties, hugs and kisses, painted toenails, and even a ride on her daddy’s motorcycle. Tracy and Jason treasured each memory with Darcy Anne as if it would be the last.

You are about to read Tracy’s thoughts that were captured in her Web diary. Hundreds were reading about the daily emotions the Ramoses experienced. People who did not know Tracy and Jason began watching a fragile life change the world, one heart at a time. As it turns out, this little four-pound-seven-ounce bundle of joy provided an international audience with a message that should never be forgotten: Each day we live should be for God’s glory, and each of us brings glory to God by the way we live each day.

Tracy and Jason chose life over death for their daughter, and she brought great glory to God as a missionary for life. Those of us who lived this journey with the Ramos family will be forever changed. For those of you who will read of this journey, my hope is that you will see how God has a plan for everything He creates. Darcy Anne is a testimony that life is precious from the moment of conception and that it is given to humankind to fulfill a purpose. Darcy Anne’s purpose was to bring a family together, to unite a church, to remind all of us of how we are to live our lives, regardless of their length.

—Ted Seago

Honored pastor of Darcy Anne Ramos

Grace Community Church

Magnolia, Texas

Wednesday, February 6, 2008

This was one of the most beautiful days of my life. I just found out that I am pregnant. Even though we were not planning on having any more children, God had other plans. I always said that you were our first surprise baby and that you were special because God chose for you to become part of our family. Inside, I was leaping with joy. I saw the plus sign on the pregnancy test, and joy filled my heart. I had felt a void from the decision we made to not have another baby. But God intervened and filled that void. I was overwhelmed with gladness. I waited a week to tell your daddy because I knew he would be shocked. I actually first told your aunt Nekita and then your big sister Ate Brittany.1 I wanted to explode with excitement and tell everyone, but for the first time in your mommy’s life, I showed self-control.

Saturday, February 16, 2008

Today was our church’s Valentine’s Day party. We had a great time. I was mostly excited about telling everyone that I was pregnant with you. Darcy, our church really loves babies and got so excited to hear about you. They really were so happy. Daddy even sang me a special song. He forgot the words, but it was still really pretty. He sang “And I Love You So.” Now whenever I hear that song, I will think of you.

Saturday, February 23, 2008

This was my first real scare. I started having crippling pains and bleeding. I just knew that I was going to lose you. I was devastated. I knew that I was given this seventh chance and now it was over. I gave up all hope.

Sunday, February 24, 2008

The bleeding continued all night. I decided to stay home from church and rest. The bleeding finally stopped at noon. I was so relieved. I was glad but still very anxious.

Monday, February 25, 2008: First Sonogram

Today, I decided to go to the doctor and have an exam. I wasn’t scheduled for my visit till next week, but since I was having problems, they went ahead and saw me. They did a sonogram and said everything looked good. I even got to see and hear your heartbeat. Never was I happier. You were a fighter from the very beginning, just like Mommy!

I love you, Darcy. I love you so much.

Saturday, March 1, 2008

Well, the bleeding started back up. It seems like this is happening again. It only lasts for about twelve hours and stops. This time isn’t as bad as the last. It sure does scare Mommy when this happens. I hope you are okay.

Sunday, March 2, 2008

I decided to stay home again from church. I am very nervous about doing anything strenuous. I want to make sure you are okay.

Wednesday, March 5, 2008

Today was my first legitimate doctor’s appointment. I got so sick that I threw up everywhere. Don’t worry, Darcy. I think it was food poisoning and not morning sickness (even though I’ve had a lot of that, too). Dr. Ritter was very nice and did not make me endure the exam but rather just talked to me about what to expect and the extra tests I could get if I wanted them. I also had Daddy pull over along the side of the road on our way home to throw up some more. I was very sick.

Saturday, March 8, 2008

The bleeding started up again. This seems to be happening once a week, on Saturdays. Maybe it is because I tend to do more on the weekends. I hope that I am not overdoing it. I will try to be more careful on weekends. I have continued to have crippling pains, and they seem to be getting worse. It affects my arms and legs. I love you. I have a doctor’s appointment on Wednesday. I will ask him what is going on then.

I love you and hope you are all right.

Sunday, March 9, 2008

I missed church two Sundays in a row and thought I would go today. I talked to some ladies at church about my symptoms and asked if they could be a sign that something is wrong. But they gave me some advice, and I am going to take it. When I got home, my symptoms got really bad. I got a rash all over my belly, and it itched so much. I am going to my regular doctor tomorrow to see what he says. I hope this is not a result of something being wrong with you. I will pray.

Monday, March 10, 2008

I went to my doctor to see what is wrong with me. He didn’t want to diagnose me and referred me back to my ob-gyn. I guess I will see what he wants me to do.

Thursday, March 13, 2008

Remember when Mommy said that I was a fighter? Well, I am stubborn, too. I waited till today to go see Dr. Ritter. The pain is too bad to endure anymore. So I went after I had Well, the bleeding started back up. It seems like this is happening again. It only lasts for about twelve hours and stops. This time isn’t as bad as the last. It sure does scare Mommy when this happens. I hope you are okay.

Sunday, March 2, 2008

I decided to stay home again from church. I am very nervous about doing anything strenuous. I want to make sure you are okay.

Wednesday, March 5, 2008

Today was my first legitimate doctor’s appointment. I got so sick that I threw up everywhere. Don’t worry, Darcy. I think it was food poisoning and not morning sickness (even though I’ve had a lot of that, too). Dr. Ritter was very nice and did not make me endure the exam but rather just talked to me about what to expect and the extra tests I could get if I wanted them. I also had Daddy pull over along the side of the road on our way home to throw up some more. I was very sick.

Saturday, March 8, 2008

The bleeding started up again. This seems to be happening once a week, on Saturdays. Maybe it is because I tend to do more on the weekends. I hope that I am not overdoing it. I will try to be more careful on weekends. I have continued to have crippling pains, and they seem to be getting worse. It affects my arms and legs. I love you. I have a doctor’s appointment on Wednesday. I will ask him what is going on then.

I love you and hope you are all right.

Sunday, March 9, 2008

I missed church two Sundays in a row and thought I would go today. I talked to some ladies at church about my symptoms and asked if they could be a sign that something is wrong. But they gave me some advice, and I am going to take it. When I got home, my symptoms got really bad. I got a rash all over my belly, and it itched so much. I am going to my regular doctor tomorrow to see what he says. I hope this is not a result of something being wrong with you. I will pray.

Monday, March 10, 2008

I went to my doctor to see what is wrong with me. He didn’t want to diagnose me and referred me back to my ob-gyn. I guess I will see what he wants me to do.

Thursday, March 13, 2008

Remember when Mommy said that I was a fighter? Well, I am stubborn, too. I waited till today to go see Dr. Ritter. The pain is too bad to endure anymore. So I went after I had lunch with Daddy. Dr. Ritter prescribed some steroids, and I need to take them. He didn’t want to refer me to an allergist yet, just in case my symptoms cleared up. He did say that it has nothing to do with you and that you are not experiencing any bad side effects from the steroids or my symptoms.

Friday, March 14, 2008

Dr. Ritter has cured me. Steroids took all of my symptoms away. I must have been allergic to something. I’ve stopped eating all weird stuff. I hope I stay well and you are okay.

I love you, Darcy.

Wednesday, March 19, 2008

All of my symptoms have come back with a vengeance. I went back to Dr. Ritter. He is sending me to an allergist. I went to see her, and she gave me more steroids. She said to be careful with them because of the risk of getting gestational diabetes and having a big baby. She also referred me to a rheumatologist. The allergist wants me to make the earliest appointment with the rheumatologist, which is the middle of April. She ordered some blood tests. I will go tomorrow to have blood drawn.

Thursday, March 20, 2008

I went to have my blood drawn. Daddy and I have our regular lunch date since it is Thursday.

Sunday, March 23, 2008

It is Easter! And Bella gets to share Easter with her birthday. We were going to go to Incredible Pizza, but they were closed. We took her to CiCi’s instead. We will have to go to Incredible Pizza some other time. Isabella’s little secret sis made a special cake for her. It was so pretty and yummy!

Postscript

Although life at the Ramoses is starting to resemble a somewhat routine pace, life after Darcy has felt as if we are suspended in another reality. Darcy shook our complacency by causing us to reevaluate many of the ways we viewed circumstances and treated people. She compelled us to rely fully on God and to trust in His providence.

It’s true that we experienced new depths of pain and anguish, but as is the case with any life-changing experience, we are forever changed because Darcy accomplished the purpose God had for her coming. Little Darcy led us to love more deeply, to forgive, to have faith, to never limit God’s power, to accept His grace and pass it on, to seek more closeness with God, and to abandon our sinful pasts and move ahead to new beginnings.

Our children Brittany, Isabella, Alexys, Mallorie, Roman, and Bryson learned that living the abundant life is about making the right choices and that the choices they make have temporal and eternal consequences.

God sent Darcy to us to help us heal. This is our new normal.

As for the thousands of family members, friends, and caring strangers from all over the world who visited the Web site, Darcy’s impact on them was profound too. Perhaps the greatest change occurred in the hearts of those who, before reading about Darcy, had already made the choice (and had even set up appointments) to have abortions but later changed their plans. Many have renewed their relationships, not just with the Lord but with their loved ones, especially their children.

In that day the wolf and the lamb will live together; the leopard will lie down with the baby goat. The calf and the yearling will be safe with the lion, and a little child will lead them all.

Isaiah 11:6

Friday, January 15, 2010

Gil Ahrens reaches out to suffering in Haiti

Author Gil Ahrens, who shares his personal story of loss and adversity in the new book Shattered, Shaken and Stirred, is reaching out to the thousands that are suffering in Haiti. In response to the horrific earthquake in Haiti, Gil has created a special promotion to raise funds for earthquake relief. Enter the Promo Code GSAHAITI upon checkout at Amazon and receive 10% off any version of Shattered, Shaken and Stirred. Gil will donate 25% of book sales to Food for the Hungry www.fh.org, which is providing food and relief to Haitians in need.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/098428950X

Author Gil Ahrens Reaches Out to the Suffering in Haiti

Personal experience with loss and adversity leads Author to help others

During a weekend trip to attend his cousin’s wedding in Denver, Gilbert Ahrens’s world changed forever. His wife, Kim, had just given birth to their first (and only) child, and although she was still recovering from her C-section, they used the occasion to introduce their daughter to Gil’s extended family. After leaving the reception early, the Ahrens’ car was hit head-on by a drunk driver traveling 95 mph. Gil’s first book, Shattered, Shaken and Stirred: Reconnecting with What Matters Most After Loss and Adversity, is his account of the aftermath of the collision that left his wife paralyzed but their three-week-old daughter miraculously unscathed.

“People who go through challenges often think they are alone and that their struggle is uniquely incapacitating,” says Gil. “Part of my intent in writing this book was to say that they—we—are not alone. That the journey of hardship, no matter the form, is not an isolated trek. It is on a road shared by many others. And it is a road everyone travels on eventually. In fact, it is a foundational element of life, dating back to Adam and Eve and carrying through to the greatest example: Jesus. It’s incredibly naïve and selfish of us, really, to believe that we should be somehow immune from hardship and suffering, that somehow we are entitled to a blissful life, free of profound suffering.”

Gil holds degrees from New York University and Boston University and briefly studied music at the New England Conservatory of Music. Early in his business career, he co-founded a consumer electronics start-up and worked in Japan in strategic planning for a large global manufacturing company. Subsequently, Gil was an investment banker for several years, most recently as Managing Director at J.P. Morgan. He has also been an elder at Calvary Presbyterian Church in San Francisco and is currently on the board of directors at Abilities United, a non-profit in Palo Alto, California, that helps champion those with developmental or physical challenges.

Gil now lives in the San Francisco Bay Area and is married to Kim, an amazing woman with whom he shares the joy of raising a charming, brilliant, and utterly wonderful daughter. Together, they all succumb to the whims of Sparky, their domineering Jack Russell Terrier, and Bella, a demur Scottish Terrier determined to dominate every inanimate object. Passionate about ice hockey, Formula 1 racing, University of Texas football, and cigars (a vice he acknowledges freely), Gil often wishes that he could be more Italian in mind, matter, or the spoken hand.

Thursday, January 14, 2010

The Pawn by Steven James - REVIEWED


I was introduced to Steven James' writing when I read The Knight back in August, and I finally have the chance, rather I'm making the time, to read the other books in this fabulous series!!

“…chaos is the evidence of human beings, but hope is the evidence of God.” (p.296)


Patrick Bowers is a man whose life is filled with chaos. Hope has left his heart, and the vacuum of emptiness left in its wake threatens to pull him into the same chaotic abyss as the world around him. Yet somewhere, deep within the echoes of memory, Bowers’ wife’s voice calls him to hope…calls him to love his daughter…calls him to life.


Life is not what the serial killer, known only to himself as the Illusionist – has in mind for the future of those whom he chooses to victimize. Even as his victims are dying, he has already chosen who will die next for it is all a game to him – a game he is convinced he will win. But even serial killers get interrupted, and when someone else tries to mimic his handiwork, things grow even more chaotic for Bowers and those who are working with him to find the killer.


The Pawn is a fast-paced, tightly written thriller that is filled with taut emotions, deep regrets and painful memories. Each character in this deadly game is motivated to win – both for good and for evil. Steven James uses vivid word-smithing to draw the reader into the hearts and minds of his characters so that it feels as thought you are at their side all along the journey. You feel yourself grow desperate to see that this deadly game ends successfully. Patrick Bowers is a man longing to find answers to painful questions that everyone must wrestle with in the course of living. Whether or not he will set aside his anger and look beyond his circumstances proves a very difficult battle and almost costs him everything.


This is a FANTASTIC series, and I can't WAIT to read The Bishop, due out from Revell later this year!!



Wednesday, January 13, 2010

The Male Factor by Shaunti Feldhahn - reviewed!

ABOUT THE BOOK:

Many talented women today risk undermining their careers without realizing it, simply because they don’t understand how they are perceived by their male colleagues and customers.
In What Men really Think, best-selling author Shaunti Feldhahn reveals the inner reality behind men’s views — the unspoken expectations that no man would dare to publicly acknowledge, and no woman would learn from an HR department. These revelations include:

• Men’s unwritten ‘rules’ of the workplace
• How men perceive workplace emotion
• What common situations with female colleagues most frustrate men-- and why
• Why revealing clothing can sabotage a woman’s effectiveness
• Why some men think flextime is fine, but equal compensation for it is not

What Men Really Think equips women with the information they need to make informed decisions and compete on a level playing field.


MY THOUGHTS:

“…most of the men on my survey shared a visceral fear that their working world might shortly come crashing down if they – and those around them – don’t focus all their energy on being productive all the time.” (p.124)


Shaunti Feldhahn desires to know how people behave in the workplace, and her in-depth research once again reveals truth that will be immensely helpful to women in the work place! The above mentioned fear alone explains a GREAT deal to me about the men I work for, and about the driving force behind my own husband’s work ethic! Shaunti’s exploration about the way men view work and how they are able to compartmentalize their emotions sits in stark contrast many times to the way women work and feel about their work and personal lives. To understand, even in part, how I am perceived by the men I work with gives me great insight about ways I can modify my own behavior to make my presence in their work environment more productive and valuable!


A lot of the knowledge in this book is pretty common-sense, but I was surprised at the way men are able to almost completely detach themselves from the emotional impact of the work around them. Their ability to focus and function is something I think they are God-designed to be, and as responsible leaders in my own place of business, I am very glad that is true! I received the expanded edition that includes faith-based insights regarding the research presented, and it will prove invaluable to me as I continue to provide administrative assistance to a large group of men.


The information provided in The Male Factor should be considered by all women in the work force whether they intend to scale to corporate heights or simply improve their performance within their current position. This is a fantastic research tool and provides enlightenment in many different areas of male/female interaction.


I also want to share a peek into an interview my friend Linda was able to secure with this wonderful author! Look HERE and enjoy!! She is also giving away a FREE COPY of this book, so check it out!!


ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Shaunti Feldhahn is a nationally syndicated columnist and the bestselling author of For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men and For Men Only, which together sold one million copies. She holds a Master in Public Policy from Harvard, worked on Wall Street and now lives in Atlanta, Georgia.




Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Becca By The Book by Laura Jensen Walker

My review copy just arrived in today's mail! Please be watching for my review!!

Sales clerk, barista, telemarketer, sign waver …

At twenty-five, free-spirited Becca Daniels is still trying to figure out what she wants to be when she grows up.

What Becca doesn’t want to be is bored. She craves the rush of a new experience, whether it’s an extreme sport, a shocking hair color, or a new guy. That’s why she quit her bookstore job, used her last bit of credit to go skydiving, and broke her leg. And that’s why, grounded and grumpy, Becca bristles when teased by friends for being commitment-phobic.


In response, Becca issues an outrageous wager—that she can sustain a three-month or twenty-five date relationship with the next guy who asks her out. When the guy turns out to be “churchy” Ben—definitely not Becca’s type—she gamely embarks on a hilarious series of dates that plunge her purple-haired, free-speaking, commitment-phobic self into the alien world of church potlucks and prayer meetings.

This irrepressible Getaway Girl will have you cheering her on as she “suffers” through her dates, gains perspective on her life’s purpose, and ultimately begins her greatest adventure of all.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Laura Jensen Walker is an award-winning writer and popular national speaker. Her previous novels include Daring Chloe, Turning the Paige, and Reconstructing Natalie, chosen as the first-ever Novel of the Year for Women of Faith® conferences. The author of several non-fiction humor books, Laura lives in Northern California with her husband, Michael, and their canine daughter Gracie.

Author Website:
http://www.laurajensenwalker.com

Monday, January 11, 2010

The Chic Shall Inherit the Earth by Shelley Adina - REVIEWED

It is time for a FIRST Wild Card Tour book review! If you wish to join the FIRST blog alliance, just click the button. We are a group of reviewers who tour Christian books. A Wild Card post includes a brief bio of the author and a full chapter from each book toured. The reason it is called a FIRST Wild Card Tour is that you never know if the book will be fiction, non~fiction, for young, or for old...or for somewhere in between! Enjoy your free peek into the book!

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The Chic Shall Inherit the Earth (All About Us #6)

FaithWords; 1 edition (January 7, 2010)

***Special thanks to Miriam Parker of the Hachette Book Group for sending me a review copy.***

CONTEST! For a chance to win one of two prizes: a Tiffany's Bracelet OR an All About Us T-shirt, go to Camy Tang's Blog and leave a comment on her FIRST Wild Card Tour for The Chic Shall Inherit the Earth, and you will be placed into a drawing for a bracelet or T-shirt that look similar to the pictures below.











ABOUT THE AUTHOR:



Shelley Adina is a world traveler and pop culture junkie with an incurable addiction to designer handbags. She knows the value of a relationship with a gracious God and loving Christian friends, and she's inviting today's teenage girls to join her in these refreshingly honest books about real life as a Christian teen--with a little extra glitz thrown in for fun! In between books, Adina loves traveling, listening to and making music, and watching all kinds of movies.


Visit the author's website.

Product Details:

List Price: $9.99
Reading level: Young Adult
Paperback: 256 pages
Publisher: FaithWords; 1 edition (January 7, 2010)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0446179647
ISBN-13: 978-0446179645


MY THOUGHTS:

“Popularity is like a storm front. A bunch of seemingly unrelated factors like pressure and movement and small changes all come together and before you know it, the atmosphere is completely different. You either hid from it, or go with it.” (p. 57)



Shelly Adina most certainly has a unique understanding of the storm fronts common in the lives of high school teens. I began this All About Us series as Lisa Mansfield and her friends were just beginning their journey at Spencer Academy, and now, with The Chic Shall Inherit the Earth, I have come full circle as this eclectic and ever-maturing group of young women get ready to graduate. I have watched as they battled peer pressure, boyfriend pressure, even the dangerous intentions of a somewhat psychotic half-sibling. I’ve traveled with them, laughed with them, cried with them and now must see them through graduation and Cotillion. With Shelly Adina authoring the tale, I should have know it wouldn’t be a smooth journey! But it was, immensely satisfying!



Lissa finde herself in charge of one of the school’s most important social events, and while she is most capable and deserving of the honor, the circumstances leading to her position prove to be a far greater force in maturing her faith than the fact that she was chosen for the task itself. This group of young women starring in this tale have matured a lot since coming to Spencer Academy, and sometimes I forget that they are still just teen girls trying to find their way. In this final installment, each character faces decisions that will alter their lives in significant ways!


Gillian is struggling to decide on a college home while learning to wait on God and discern His will. Sharri has her future mapped out pretty plainly even though she never considered asking God’s direction because she is still a new Christian. Carly’s mom is getting re-married, and she and Brett are struggling to find a way to go forward together. In short, it seems every single relationship is set topsy-turvy amid the excitement of graduation, and for a while you are left to wonder if it’s even possible for things to be made right again. I have to admit, Shelley Adina sure knows how to mix it up!


The Chic Shall Inherit the Earth forces our beloved group of young ladies to face life head on, and that includes some pretty painful situations. However, God is faithful, and along the way, this group learns that He can be trusted even when it’s hard to understand. Lissa, in particular, learns that sometimes God’s best gifts are given to us when we least expect them!
I’ll admit to being dubious about this series in the beginning, because hanging out with a bunch of rich girls at a private academy didn’t sound too appealing. Yet these characters portray very realistic struggles of faith and friendship innate to today’s teens, and you can’t help but love them and wish them all the best as they enter into the future! I highly recommend this series for teens and adults who love teens. It’s All About Us is a six-book series that all young girls should enjoy!


AND NOW...THE FIRST CHAPTER:


THE CHIC SHALL INHERIT THE EARTH

© 2010 by Shelley Adina


Chapter 1


LET ME PUT it right out there: I’m no sports fan—unless you count surfing, which is more of an attitude to life than a sport. I used to think that there were some things you just knew. But if God were a major league pitcher, He’d be the kind of guy who threw curveballs just to keep you on your toes. To catch you off guard. To prove you wrong about everything you thought.

Which is essentially what happened to us all during the last term of our senior year at Spencer Academy.

My name is Lissa Evelyn Mansfield—yes, I’m back again. Did you miss me? Because, seriously, this last term of high school before my friends and I graduated was so crazed, so unpredictable, that I had to write it all down to try and make sense of it.

But, hey, let’s take a moment here. The words last term of senior year need some respect, not to mention celebration. They need to be paused over and savored. Excuse me.

Okay, I’m back.

The term began in April, and by the time our first set of midterms (or thirdterms, as my roommate Gillian Chang calls them, since we get three sets of exams every term) rolled around at the beginning of May, it was just beginning to sink in that there were only seven weeks of high school left. Seven weeks until freedom. Adulthood. Summer vacation. Adulthood. Home.

Adulthood.

Eek.

“Sarah Lawrence is stalking me,” Gillian moaned from where she sat on her bed in our dorm room. “Here’s another letter.” She fished an envelope out of the pile of mail in her lap and waved it.

I looked up from my MacBook Air, where I was checking e-mail. “Don’t let Emily Overton hear you. She got turned down and her roommate has had to keep her away from open windows for the last month.”

“But I already told them no twice. What’s it going to take?”

“You could fail some exams.” I’m always willing to offer a helpful suggestion. “They can’t help it if they covet your fearsome brain.”

“So does Harvard. And Princeton. Not to mention Stanford and Columbia and Juilliard.” She threw her hands in the air so that the letter flew over her shoulder and bounced off the headboard. “How am I supposed to pick just one? Can I spend a year at each school? I could be a career transfer student.”

“I’m glad I don’t have your decisions to make,” I told her with absolute honesty. “If all those schools were after me, I’d run away and hide.”

“I’ve got to figure out what I’m doing with my life.” She glanced at me. “Or maybe I should say, what God wants me to do with my life.”

“There’s the kicker.” I nodded sagely. “I understand about waiting on the Lord, but . . . He knows about registration deadlines, doesn’t He?”

“Oh, yeah. He knows. I keep asking Him, and He keeps thinking about it. Maybe He wants me to figure out what I want, first. But that’s the impossible part.”

Poor Gillian. She has the kind of brain schools fight over for their research programs. But she’s also a music prodigy—hence the acceptance from Juilliard. Then, to complicate things even more, she also has quite the talent for drawing, and ever since she met my friend Kaz Griffin, her dream has been to create a graphic novel starring a kick-butt Asian girl with a secret identity. Kaz, in case you haven’t met him, is my best friend from my old high school in Santa Barbara. He’s been trying to get his graphic novel published for, like, years, with no success. But I have to hand it to him. He never gives up.

Anyway. Gillian.

“You could always do pre-med at Harvard and minor in art or music,” I suggested. “You know you’re going to need a release valve from all that scientific pressure. It would be good to have the right-brain kind of classes to turn to.”

Gillian pushed the stack of mail off her lap and leaned back against the mound of colorful silk pillows. The letter from Sarah Lawrence crumpled somewhere underneath. “But then how will I know if I’m any good?”

“Um, your grades? Not to mention, if you got an acceptance from Juilliard, you’re good. Full stop, as Mac would say.”

Lady Lindsay MacPhail, aka Mac, was a student here at Spencer for two terms, and she’s one of our little group of friends. She’s gone back to live in London until the end of term, when she’ll return to her family’s castle in Scotland, and she has none of these questions about her life. She knows exactly what degree she’s going to get, when she’ll get it, and what she’ll be doing after that: making the Strathcairn Hotel and Corporate Retreat Center the go-to place for world-class events in the UK.

I envy people who have their future in a laser sight. I’m still trying to figure out what to wear tomorrow.

“What do teachers know?” Gillian asked. I don’t think she was looking for the answer to that one. “If I’m going to find out whether I’m really any good, I have to try to get into an art program and give it everything I’ve got. Try to get an exhibition. Or a publisher. Live in a garret and try to make it as an artist.”

“That sounds scary.”

“I know.” She sighed. “Medical school is the easy path, grasshopper.”

Only Gillian Chang would say something like that.

I turned back to my notebook and saw that while we’d been talking, a message from Kaz had popped up in my inbox.




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To: lmansfield@spenceracad.edu

From: kazg@hotmail.com

Date: May 4, 2010

Re: Ow



I am so regretting pushing off physics until senior year. My brain hurts. What was I thinking? Instead of grabbing my board and heading for the beach, I’m stuck down here in my room writing equations I don’t know the answers to.

Does the Jumping Loon tutor over the phone? Can you ask her? I’ll give her anything she wants, including full use of my studly body, if she’ll just say the magic words that will unveil the meaning of x and y, not to mention z.

Life, I’ve got a handle on. X is a mystery.

Kaz




I looked over my shoulder. “Kaz wants to know if you do physics tutoring over the phone. He says you can do what you want with his body if you help him.” I paused when she didn’t look up from a Neiman Marcus catalog. “I didn’t know you were interested in his body. Does Jeremy know about this?”

“That sounds like a jealous remark.” She flipped a page. “Ooh, nice dress. Chloé does summer so well. Which reminds me, if we’re going on a Senior Cotillion dress safari, we’d better start soon.”

I was not to be sidetracked, no matter how tempting the bait. “Is something going on with you and Kaz?”

She put the catalog down and rolled her eyes to the ceiling. “Yes. Yes, there is.”

I sat there as stunned as if someone had upended a bucket of seawater over me.

Kaz and Gillian? What? How is that possible? When did—

What is the matter with you? Kaz is your friend. You aren’t . . . like that. If he’s interested in Gillian, it’s none of your business.

Poor Jeremy.

“Lissa. Lissa, come back to me.” I blinked at her. My face felt frozen. “For crying out loud, get a grip.” She was trying not to laugh and not succeeding very well. “He’s teasing you. He’s helping me with a plaster mold of his hand for my art project, okay? That’s all.”

“A mold. Of his hand. And you don’t have guys’ hands any closer than Santa Barbara?”

“He has interesting hands, which you’d know if you ever paid any attention.”

Of course he did. And of course I did. Pay attention to him, I mean. He was my best friend. We e-mailed each other, like, twenty times a week.

“And Jeremy’s hands aren’t interesting?”

She picked up the catalog and flipped another page. “Write him back and tell him of course I’ll tutor him. We can start tonight if he’s desperate.”

Hm. Poor Jeremy, indeed. What was going on here? “He wants to know the meaning of x.”

“Don’t we all. Some of us wait for the universe to reveal it to us. And some of us wouldn’t know it if the universe dropped it on our heads.”

“What’s your point?”

But my friend, who usually has all the answers, didn’t reply.

Saturday, January 9, 2010

Shattered Shaken and Stirred Q&A with author Gil Ahrens

My thanks to Tracy McCarter from B&H for this great interview!

“Suffering has no purpose unless it draws us closer to God, which I think is why He allows it and created it in the first place,” writes Gil. “It is very difficult to connect with God when we feel able, strong, and self-reliant. But it is often only in our weakness, need, and insufficiency that we allow ourselves to be open enough to let God in.” -Gil Ahrens, Shattered, Shaken and Stirred

YOU CAN READ MY REVIEW OF THIS AMAZING BOOK HERE!!


Q: On a crisp autumn evening in 2002, you and your family were violently thrust upon what you call “an unplanned, inevitable journey.” Can you tell us what happened?

We were on a weekend trip to Denver in order to attend my cousin’s wedding. My wife had just given birth to our first (and only) child, and although she was still recovering from her C-section, we used the occasion to introduce our daughter to my extended family. We left the reception early because the baby was getting a little...fussy. On the way back to our hotel, our car was hit head-on by a drunk driver going about 95 mph. We were going about 60 mph. The driver of the other car was only 18. One of the passengers in his car—his best friend, we later learned—was killed instantly. My wife suffered a broken neck that has put her in a wheelchair.

Q: In the book, you often mention the “Dragon.” To whom are you referring, and how did you learn to wage war and finally win the victory against him?

While the Dragon is an obvious metaphor for the Devil or anything evil, it ultimately refers to my own inner demons. Those are all those selfish things that I want to do, rather than what I know God wants from me. Essentially, it’s all those little demons that conspire to separate us from God so that we feel more in control. Even if you don’t believe in the Devil or evil, the Dragon represents the inner part of us that serves our selfish interests at the expense of our best interests. The Dragon’s primary objective is to separate us from the relationships we need most: with God and those who love us. It will use any and all resources to do so; including making us believe that it doesn’t exist. The truth is - the Dragon exists inside all of us. It’s easy to say, “There’s only one God, and it’s not me,” but it’s another thing to consistently think and act that way.

Q: How would you answer the millions of people who question how a loving God could allow such pain and suffering as what you have experienced into our lives?

I believe that God suffers more than we can imagine because we – as human beings generally and as individuals to varying degrees – have disconnected ourselves from the God, our father, who created us and loves us. We tend to worship anything and everything else, other than Him. Because God loves us, His greatest desire is to be close to us and for us to love Him. God uses every circumstance in our lives as an opportunity for us to draw closer to Him. But because we are innately selfish, we are vulnerable to every self-indulgent distraction. Before long, we’ve become completely disconnected from God. Suffering has no purpose unless it draws us – or those around us – closer to God, which I think is why He allows it and created it in the first place. And yet, even in suffering, God created us in a way that, even at times of our deepest suffering, provides us with some protective features. For example, my wife has no recollection of the actual accident in which her body was severely damaged. That experience is not unique, as we’ve learned from others who’ve had similar accidents and injuries. God made us in such a way that we often forget the most painful circumstances. But He also created hardship not as a form of punishment per se, but as a means of bringing us closer to Him. Furthermore, it is quite possible that He uses one person’s trials as a way to reach and connect with others. I can’t imagine God takes any pleasure from our suffering, but I think He allows it – and even promotes it – as a means of reaching as many people, His children, as possible. Every hero in the bible suffered at one point. And who suffered more than Jesus? If Jesus suffered, which he did voluntarily, God surely suffered, as well. But that is the process of redemption, and its how bad situations can and do serve the higher purpose of witnessing and receiving God’s grace, which is His gift of unconditional love.

Q: Few people expect to find themselves in a crisis or severe adverse event. But crises of all varieties do indeed happen all the time. What are some suggestions that you can offer, based on your experiences, to those who unexpectedly find themselves in a crisis situation?

Knowing that we’re not alone is really important. Pain and adversity of any kind can be very debilitating and exhausting. As it wears at our resources, it’s easy to withdraw from others, be it physically or emotionally, and it can become isolating. When we realize that we really aren’t alone – that so many others have been already, are currently, and will be eventually – traveling on this heavily trodden road called Adversity, it helps ease the burden and lift the pressure. I call it “piercing the veil.” It’s when you see this entirely new world that co-exists alongside the one you were in prior to your adverse situation, but before which you could barely see and certainly not comprehend what it all meant. Piercing the veil is very traumatic because it’s initially so uncomfortable, and you realize that you can never go back. But eventually, being there starts to give you a perspective about how the world works and how it should work. Things like justice, mercy, compassion, and our relationship with God and others become much clearer.

The other two things may appear to be somewhat contradictory. One is the concept of surrender: of admitting and accepting weakness. I learned that I needed to share the burden and to not think that I could do it all by myself, no matter how wounded or challenged I may have felt. I had to tear down the fences that I instinctually erected to protect myself. Instead of grabbing frantically any weapon I could use in self-defense, I had to lay down my arms and surrender first to God and allow Him to wage the battle on my behalf. But the other thing, in addition to that, was to move, engage, and be proactive. Surrender should not imply suddenly becoming a helpless and wilted wallflower. It means letting go of the unnecessary baggage of self-importance. With that burden lifted, we’re then much lighter and able to move more freely. Movement and action are critical. We can’t just sit around and feel sorry for ourselves, so any kind of movement is essential to getting on with getting on. Moving a mountain begins by activating whatever we can—mind, body, or soul—to initiate motion which, ultimately, results in transformation. But the real key to this apparent contradiction is to actively surrender control over the final outcome. God’s in control, not us.

Q: What do you believe is the difference between bravery and courage? Why was distinguishing this difference so important to you after your accident?

Bravery implies an attitude of toughness and taking a stiff upper lip regarding potential consequences. Such bravery is good, but it is different from courage, which implies a greater awareness of the consequences, ones that are willingly endured, if necessary. More importantly, courage implies that I may not necessarily be all that brave, but that I will persevere in spite of my weaknesses or fears, of which I am fully aware.

To me, bravery involves denying fear, or at least overcoming it by drawing one’s own inner strength and determination. Courage, on the other hand, involves acknowledging fear and then overcoming it by drawing on an external strength to carry on regardless. In my case, that external strength comes from my faith and trust in God. It is my complete and utter conviction that God is good. If I trust that I will ultimately end up with Him, I can tolerate or endure anything that might happen.

Q: What is the most important lesson you have learned from the suffering and hardship you have endured as a result of the accident?

Going through challenge and adversity has made me a far better man than I would have been otherwise. That’s primarily because I leaned so heavily on God to help me get through it. I can’t imagine where I’d be now if God had not been intimately involved in the struggle and the process getting through it. Of course, I am still prideful, self-indulgent, manipulative, condescending, and hurtful to others. And I still far too often put myself ahead of God. Those are character traits that were in me long before the accident, and I’m sure they’ll always stay with me. Which is exactly why, frankly, I’m so grateful that He allowed me to experience this adversity; to be overwhelmed, despairing and, indeed, broken. I have a much better understanding of those unsavory character traits than I did before. I can more easily recognize them and allow God to help heal me of them so that I don’t inflict as much pain on others. My empathy is greater and my willingness to live and act for the benefit of people or things other than just me is infinitely greater.

Had I not surrendered and been broken, and really allowed God to reside in me, I’d be a totally different and utterly wretched person. I’d be angry, bitter, and vengeful. Though life now is certainly more difficult that before the accident, I’m grateful for what the experience has given me and for what it has taken away.

Q: What is the primary message you hope readers will take away from the reading of your book?

It begins with embracing faith, hope, and love. When our hearts are softened, we realize that we’re not alone. Adversity can be very isolating, which compounds the various practical challenges. Once someone enters the road of adversity, they never leave. They may recover, but they stay on the road in order to help others. Most important is that God is there. Of course, He is everywhere, but He is really in those places where we hurt and struggle and confess that we need Him. It is very difficult to connect with God when we feel able, strong, and self-reliant. And, because we’ve become such self-centered, pleasure-seeking little zombies, we’ve grown incredible disconnected with God. It is often only in our brokenness, weakness, and insufficiencies that we allow ourselves to be open enough to let God in. We feel God more fully when we allow His strength to work through our weakness. Faith, Hope, and Love shift our focus away from ourselves and toward God and others. In that state, we are better positioned to make the necessary, ongoing reconnection with our maker.

Shattered, Shaken, and Stirred by Gilbert Ahrens

Positano Press/October 2009

ISBN: 978-0984289516/224 pages/softcover/$14.95 ISBN: 978-0984289509/224 pages/hardcover/$24.95

www.gilahrens.com