She's Got the Wrong Guy by Deepak Reju - REVIEWED

About the Book:
The control freak. The angry man. The lazy guy. The unteachable guy. The promiscuous man. The unbeliever. The lone ranger. The unchurched guy. The new convert. The commitment-phobe.

For any woman who has struggled with failed relationships, this may seem like a familiar list. These are the men your friends and family have in mind when they think, “she’s with the wrong guy.” And while the reasons women choose these types of men are complicated and varied, ultimately, they will all let you down.

In She’s Got the Wrong Guy, Deepak Reju offers a different kind of dating book, discussing the types of guys women should not marry and offering biblical reasons why they aren’t suitable spouses. Writing from his years of experience as a pastor and counselor, Reju shares with women his perspective on how to assess a relationship’s strengths from the beginning, how to identify possible pitfalls, and how to have the courage to wait for a relationship that will be a blessing for both of you. Using stories that single women can relate to and highlighting contemporary issues in the modern world of dating, Reju gives readers clear, biblical direction on how to have positive, life-giving relationships with members of the opposite sex.

With a strong, Christ-centered focus, women will better understand why they “settle” for less than what God intends for their romantic relationships and learn to put their hopes and find their happiness in Jesus, not marriage.

Unlike typical dating books, this book highlights the type of men Christian women should not marry.
Details ten profiles of the wrong type of guys, and offers biblical reasons why they are not suitable spouses.

Written by a pastor and counselor with years of experience in addressing these issues and seeing the harm that unhealthy romantic relationships can do.


A strong, Christ-centered focused that helps readers put their hope in Jesus, not marriage.

My Thoughts:

“We need God’s standard to ring loudly in our ears because the voice in us and the voices around us want nothing more than for us to abandon God’s Word.”  (p. 49)

There are not enough words or enough emotions in the world to express how I feel about the importance of this book.  After experiencing the end of 22-years of marriage, I’ve ministered to a lot of single women, and I KNOW the teachings in this book are true, accurate and biblically sound.  I want to buy cases of these books and scatter them like so much confetti to all of the single women I know – to all of the single men I know!!  THIS IS A TOOL straight from the Father’s heart to minister to everyone who has settled for anything less than God’s principles for relationships.

This isn’t a book of “do’s” and “don’ts’s”, rather, this is a book written from years of counseling men and women who settled for relationships that were less than God’s best.  God’s grace covers all of our relational mistakes and His forgiveness draws us back to His heart if we submit to Him.  Pastor Reju tenderly guides readers through principles and truths from God’s Word to equip them to choose and live wisely as unto the Lord – to wait patiently and serve God with our whole hearts as we become the people who live yielded to His will and plan for our lives.

I thank GOD that this book has been written, and I plan to use it as a teaching tool for friends and small groups at the earliest opportunity.  I want to live for Christ and Christ alone so that others will see and know that He is enough.  He sustains, guides and loves us through this lifetime and into the next.  I don’t have to settle than less than His best for me!! EVER!!  AMEN!!!

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About the Author:

Deepak Reju, MDiv, PhD, serves as the pastor of biblical counseling and families at Capitol Hill Baptist Church (CHBC) in Washington, DC, as well as president for the board of directors of the Biblical Counseling Coalition. He is the author of several books and articles, including Great Kings of the Bible: How Jesus Is Greater than Saul, David and Solomon, The Pastor and Counseling, and On Guard: Preventing and Responding to Child Abuse at Church. Deepak and his wife Sarah have been married since 2001 and have five children.